Recipe for disaster?
(If you’re tired of reading about sleep and sleep issues you should probably just skip past this.)
You know the one thing that keeps confusing me about my kid? Sleep. And the one thing that keeps changing? Sleep. I’m so tired of trying to work out sleep issues. I’m tired of reading about sleep, I’m tired of boring you by talking about it, yet I am desperate to work out a better routine for us.
We’ve recently tried to transition Anakin to one nap a day. For a while there I thought we may be getting somewhere, but it’s dawning on me that what we’re doing may well be a recipe for disaster.
Our issue wasn’t that Anakin didn’t want to take his second nap. Most of the time he would. Our issue was that he then wouldn’t be ready for bed by his bedtime. He usually goes 3 -3,5 hours max in the morning and then he seems to want around 4- 4,5 hours wake time before next nap. So we figured hey, why don’t we try the whole one nap a day thing, everyone else is doing it.
But the thing is our young Jedi wakes up at 6 and is usually well and ready for a nap by 9-9.15. Put him down in time and he sleeps for 1,5 hours on his own. Push him too far and he’s harder to get down and wakes after 45 minutes needing a lot of help to go back under, if he goes back under. But get him up from his second nap any later than 2.30 in the afternoon and our bedtime falls to pieces. But an awake time of over 7 hours is brutal and he usually has a minor mid-afternoon meltdown around 2-3 o’clock when he would normally be ready for another nap.
So what has been happening lately? Anakin wakes from his nap usually around 11-11.30. Then goes all the way until 6.30 when he is so tired he falls asleep on the boob way before he’s really done and way before we get the rest of our bedtime routine done. He then passes out in bed for about 45 minutes to an hour before waking up again needing help to get back under. More often than not he’ll wake at least once overnight (now that we’re past the last night waking hell) and need some assistance.
I’ve tried to push him longer in the mornings, but it often ends with a less desirable result. If I manage to work his nap time so that he sleeps until 1, he’s usually happy as larry and we all get to the end happier. But how to get him all the way to 11 before putting him down without torturing us all? Or perhaps it’s a question of having to push back his bedtime by an hour? (Personally I prefer 7 as a bedtime. Not sure why, I just do.)
If you’ve made it this far in this post, and you’ve been there, done that, perhaps you’ll have some words of wisdom to share? If not, then well, there’s my whinge about our nap situation and I’ll catch you later with (hopefully) something more interesting to share.